Venue: Front + Palmer | Caterer: Feast Your Eyes Catering | Photography: Love Shack Photo | Stationery: Chick Invitations | Bride’s Dress: Alyne by Rita Vinieris | Bride’s Shoes: Vans personalized by Skinz Customs | Maid of Honor Dress: Katie May | Hair and Makeup: Beautiful Brides Philly | Officiant: Maura Bernt of Journeys of the Heart | Florals: Papertini | Furniture Rentals: Barnes Farmhouse Tables | Lighting: Synergetic Sound | DJ: Lovesick Inc. | Cake: Feast Your Eyes Catering | Donuts: Federal Donuts | Photo Booth: Poser Booth | Transportation: Philadelphia Sightseeing Tours | Hotel: Hotel Monaco | Rehearsal Dinner: Fork
Images via Love Shack Photo
Ceremony Venue: Chapel of Saint Joseph’s | Reception Venue: The Horticulture Center | Caterer: Constellation Culinary Group | Photography: Andrew Graham Todes Photography | Videography: Montague Films | Hair: Taffeta Design | Makeup: Vintage Veils | Florals: Robertson’s Flowers | Lighting: Eventions Productions | Band: Sid Miller Band | Cake and Dessert: Isgro | Transportation: Delaware Express and Philadelphia Trolley Works | Hotel: Hilton Philadelphia City Avenue and Courtyard Philadelphia City Avenue | Rehearsal Dinner: Estia | After Party: Bourbon Blue
Images via Andrew Graham Todes Photography
Venue: Front + Palmer | Caterer: Feast Your Eyes | Photography: Paige Duborow of Heyjinx Design | Bride’s Dress: Jim Hjelm from The Sample Rack | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Jenny Yoo from Bella Bridesmaids | Groom and Groomsmen Suits: Men’s Wearhouse | Hair and Makeup: Beautiful Brides Philly | Officiant: Jim Rosengarten of Journeys of the Heart | Florals: Robertson’s Flowers and Events | Lighting: Synergetic Sound | DJ: DJ Jim of Synergetic Sound | Cake: Feast Your Eyes | Transportation: Limo Today | Hotel: Hotel Monaco | Rehearsal Dinner: Barbuzzo
images via Paige Duborow of Heyjinx Design
Ceremony Venue: Saint Patrick’s Church | Reception Venue: Barnes Foundation | Caterer: Constellation Culinary | Photography: Emily Wren Photography | Videography: Emily Wren Photography | Bride’s Dress: Sareh Nouri from Van Cleve Bridal | Hair and Makeup: Nancy Caroline Bridal Beauty | Post-Ceremony Entertainment: Avalon String Band | Florals: Carl Alan Floral Artistry | Band: CTO Midtown Express | Donut Tower: Federal Donuts | Transportation: Mid-Atlantic Limousine | Hotel: Acorn Club
images via Emily Wren Photography
Venue: Barnes Foundation | Caterer: Constellation Culinary | Photography: Asya Photography | Videography: Asya Photography | Bride’s Dress: Piper by Jenny Yoo from Lovely Bride | Bridesmaids’ Dresses: BHLDN | Hair and Makeup: Aleksandra Ambrozy | Officiant: Maria Odilia Romeu of Journeys of the Heart | Florals: Love ‘n Fresh Flowers | Band: Soul Patch Philly | Cake: Nutmeg Cake Design | Transportation: Philadelphia Trolley Works | Hotel: Ritz-Carlton | Rehearsal Dinner: Barbuzzo
Images via Asya Photography
Published on Brides.com on May 22, 2016 by Jillian Kramer
In the throes of wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that you and your soon-to-be spouse aren’t the only ones super stressed. “Wedding planning and the wedding day itself are stressful for not only the couple, but also the mother-of-the-bride,” says Jaclyn Fisher, owner of Two Little Birds Planning in Philadelphia.
Why? As John Duffy, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist and author of The Available Parent, explains, “just like the bride, her mother has an awful lot to accomplish, and a lot of planning to do, leading up to the wedding day. Along with that, it is important to keep in mind that she has also been envisioning this day for many, many years. It is an important day for her too.”
So in between easing your own anxiety, be sure to take care of your mom, too. Here, our experts suggest five ways you can soothe even the most stressed mother of the bride.
1. Include her in the planning process.
It may seem counterintuitive to ask a stressed-out parent to pitch in. But sometimes a mother-of-the-bride’s stress comes from not knowing what’s going on and feeling pushed aside, Duffy explains. “I worked with a couple recently who, recognizing the anxiety of the mother of the bride, arranged planning meetings with her every few weeks,” he says. “This made her feel like a valued part of the process, and important as well.”
2. Take her on a special shopping trip.
Don’t leave your mother to pick out her wedding day attire alone, warns Fisher. “Your mom may be feeling stressed about what she’s going to wear on the wedding day,” Fisher explains. “She wants to look and feel her best, but also wants her dress to complement your wedding day style. Ease this pressure by planning a special day where the focus is solely on finding her the perfect dress.”
3. Arrange for a spa day for her — and foot the bill.
Duffy says you’ll get bonus points if you pamper your mother before and after the big day. “This way, you’re acknowledging the degree of stress she is and has endured,” he explains, “while also sending a thank you to her for her contribution. She will feel pampered, taken care of, and appreciated. There is no lose here, for anyone.”
4. Include your mother in a wedding-day toast.
If you and your spouse plan to offer up toasts at the reception, be sure to give a shout-out to the mother of the bride, Duffy says. “And don’t let this be a quick thank you among a list,” he says. “Take a beat. Tell a story of how helpful she was when you were stressed, or a funny event that took place during the planning. She will feel appreciated, publicly and clearly, and truly feel more a part of the proceedings than any kind of afterthought.”
5. Be happy yourself.
Says Duffy, “This may seem like an odd or elementary piece of advice, but in my experience, there is nothing that makes a mother of the bride happier and less stressed than to see her daughter, and her future son-in-law, happy. So, come to her to help solve pre-wedding problems and issues, sure — but also go to her when you feel blissful. She is going to want to be a part of that as well.”